Last weekend I had the pleasure of wearing a collar for the first time. It’s something I’ve been keen to try for a while, but with the right person. The opportunity presented itself with a partner I felt I trusted enough to hand the lead over to.

The collar I chose was from Ann Summers and cost £15.00. The collar and handle are black velvet although you can get them in Burgundy. Unfortunately, they were out of stock in my local Ann Summers but I have posted a link below if you want to buy one online.  There’s an adjustable clasp in rose gold and a twisted rope lead.  

Ann Summers Velvet Collar and Lead

The collar felt comfortable around my neck; not too thick or itchy and it didn’t leave any marks behind. Nor did my partner have any trouble doing up the clasp.

The lead seemed strong (though we didn’t do any hard tugging) and was just the right length for our needs.

I love how sophisticated and classy it looks compared to some of the more harsher looking collars and leads. For someone who has never used one before, I found this far less intimidating. It perhaps won’t be as strong or as sturdy I’m guessing as some of those for the more advanced bondage lover, but for a beginner, this one was perfect.

We started off using it s a means of him pulling me closer for brief kisses. By giving him the lead, I was showing how much I trusted him and that made the experience far more intimate.

Physically and sexually it brought us closer together. There I was showing him my most vulnerable self and it made me feel powerful. He was guiding me rather than yanking or pulling and I was directed by his desires which inflamed my own.

The collar and lead lent itself well to doggy style and oral for him was also incredibly enjoyable for us both using it.

We discussed it in detail afterwards and the only concern my partner had was about the collar not going all the way around the neck. He was worried that the clasp would put undue pressure on the back of my neck, although this wasn’t something I found to be a problem but certainly something we’re going to monitor in the future.

After my first time using a collar and lead I can safely say that it’s is something I’m going to be incorporating more into the bed in the future.

A velvet collar and lead that’s perfect for beginners

I’ve added a link if you’re interested in checking it out for yourself: Ann Summers Burgundy Velvet Collar and Lead

FYI: This is not a sponsored post. The collar and lead I bought myself and I was not asked by Ann Summers to review it. I will always state if a post is sponsored or any item is gifted.