Lingerie Review – Crotchless Knickers & Cleaning My Toys

In my previous post I reviewed two new pieces of lingerie that I picked up in Ann Summers over the weekend. As well as the bodysuit and the black teddy I also selected a few other items that I didn’t have time to write about in my previous post.

Bonnie Crotchless High Waisted Suspender Brief

crotchless knickers

Crotchless Ann Summers Briefs in black


Besides bodysuits, I also love buying suspender briefs and stockings. I’m building up quite a bit of a collection. It’s also worth mentioning that I have these in purple as well as in the black that I bought at the weekend.


Purple Bonnie crotchless briefs from Ann Summers


The reason I decided to buy these in two colours is because not only are they incredibly comfortable, but they’re flattering to the stomach area. By being high waisted they flatten the stomach and they have detachable suspender straps so you can wear them with or without stockings.

The string detail at the front is an interesting touch and gives the briefs some extra interest in addition to the lace and sheer panelling. The harness-style strapping I think is very sexy, not to mention the fact that they’re crotchless.

I bought both in a size medium, which is 12-14 as they do come up on the large size. I’d go a size smaller than you actually are if you want these.

These were bought on their own but they do come as part of the Bonnie set, so it has a matching bra. The reason why I didn’t also buy the bra is that I already have the Bonnie bodysuit.

They were originally £18.00 but were in the sale for £10.00. Here’s a link if they take your fancy. Bonnie Briefs

Dick Lick & Cleansing Spray


First up, the sensible part. Clean your toys!! That’s right, your toys do need a proper clean and I was running a little low on what I would usually use, which are the buzz fresh cleansing wipes. However, I was finding I was going through quite a few, despite buying a pack of 30 (I have a lot of toys), so this time I went for the cleansing spray. It’s a 150ml bottle and was £8.00.

You spray it directly onto the toy and then wipe it with a damp cloth. This is an economical alternative to the wipes which didn’t seem to be doing the environment any good with all the individual packaging around each wipe.

I haven’t used it yet so I can’t attest to how well it works but I never had any problems with the wipes that were from the same range.

At the moment there’s a Buy 1 Get 1 Half Price deal on Sex Essentials so I thought it would be worth my while getting something else as part of the deal so I chose the Dick Lick gel in Bubble gum flavour. It’s £7.00 although it would be half that price if you buy it as part of the deal as I did. The deal seemed like a great way to try a new product without too much expense.

Again, I’ve not used this yet but I tasted it in the store and it seemed better than a lot of the other flavours that were a little too sweet. I also liked the bubble gum smell but again, until I use it a few time, I can’t say how good it is.

I have bought edible licks before from Ann Summers, the Tutti fruiti lube and I found that one far too sickly sweet, hence why I only bought this one in a small size. I’m not sure I’d buy this at full price considering how small it is but it seemed worth a try as part of the deal. Link here: Dick lick

My First Lingerie Review

As I promised, in aid of Breast Cancer Awareness Month, I’ve decided to use this month to start reviewing lingerie here on The Secret World of Cydney. This is something that I’ve already been doing for a little while on Instagram, but I thought this blog would give me the opportunity to go into more detail.

With that in mind I’m excited to start off by sharing with you the first of two pieces of lingerie that I picked up yesterday in Ann Summers.

Ann Summers – Faro Body

This is called the Faro Body in black. As anyone who follows my Instagram knows, I’m obsessed with bodies. I find them incredibly flattering, especially if you have a curvy figure.

We all have parts of our bodies we’re uncomfortable with and for me, my stomach is one of those. A body is perfect because it hides the stomach area and accentuates your other assets. For me I think of it as sexy shapewear.

So, I was a little concerned when I decided to try this one on because of the cut out detail in the stomach area. Added to that, the panels on the side and I thought this would just show off my love handles and make me look like a sausage spilling out of its casing. How wrong I was.

This was so beautifully flattering that it’s now given me the confidence to try similar styles in the future, a style I would usually have walked straight past. But as this one was in the sale, I took a risk and I think it paid off.

Even better, they only had it in a size 12-14 so I tried that on and it fit perfectly. I’m usually a size 14/16 dress size. What I do love about Ann Summers is that their sizing comes up a little on the large size.

The Faro Body was originally priced at £24.00 and it was reduced in the sale to £10.00 which I was more than happy with.

This lurex bodysuit is a sparkly material and Ann Summers recommends on their website, that it’s worn with a pencil skirt for a night out, which I may give a go.

One final observation about the Faro Body is that when I initially picked it up I thought it was a swimsuit. It doesn’t have water resistant material but it actually does look like a swimsuit so I think you could get away with wearing it as such. Just make sure you don’t stay out in the sun too long in it or you’ll be left with some funky tan marks.

You can find it in the sale here: Faro Body

Ann Summers – Kasie Lace Teddy

The second piece I bought was this Kasie Lace Teddy, again in black. This is a size L, so a U.K. 16-18. Sizes range from x-small to x-large.

Again, this was also in the sale. It would retail usually at £20.00 and in the sale it was discounted to £12.00.

There are a couple of reasons I chose this teddy. First, like the Faro body is very flattering because it hides the lumps and bumps. But what I like it that it manages to stay sexy by being slightly see through, especially in the bust area.

I also love that it’s a shorts teddy rather than a straight dress which gives it a slight boyish feel, again whilst still looking sexy. The material is light so particularly good for the warmer months, hence why it was probably in the sale now it’s getting colder. Though if you’re planning to go away somewhere warm then this would be perfect of a night.

The ruffles and V-neck front flatter the more well-endowed out there without making you look overly busty. The only thing I think that would have made this even better would have been if there had been some discreet bust support. But I’m assuming by doing so, it would lose the sheer effect so I understand why.

If you don’t want the sheer effect then it looks great with a lacy bra and panties underneath. I’m assuming if you’re wearing this to bed then you wouldn’t bother.

If you’re interested in shopping for this then please follow the link: Ann Summers Kasie Teddy

If you liked this review, then stay posted because I also bought a few other items which I will also be reviewing in the coming days.

The Wonders of a Sensual Massage

A few weeks ago, I was out having a drink with a female friend and as the bottles of wine came and went, we started to talking about how much value we place on penis in vagina penetration in traditional heterosexual ideas of what makes great sex. This we are told, is the root to the big ‘O’ and everything and anything else is just a distraction before the main event.

We then started talking about some of the most erotic experiences we’d ever had. The first thing that came to mind was a sensual massage I’d once received. There had been no penis in vagina penetration and yet I ended up having one of the best orgasms I’ve ever had.

It came about through an introduction from a couple I’d once met. They knew I was single and told me about a friend who was also single and a physiotherapist. They gave me his number and we started chatting and got on well. Our talk soon turned to what our fantasies were.

I confessed to him that one of mine was receiving a sensual massage. I knew a few people who’d been to sensual massage classes and raved about them and since then I’d really wanted to try one.

Having a massage is one of my favourite ways to relax and pamper myself. So the idea of a sensual massage was such a turn on. He confessed that he’d always wanted to give a sensual massage as a physio, but never had because he wanted to keep things strictly professional with his clients, which I respected. However, I wasn’t one of his clients and he asked me if I’d like to come along and have a massage with no pressure on it going any further than that, unless I wanted it. This seemed fair and so I agreed.

I arrived at the gym where he had his own physio room and at first it was awkward. The anticipation was clearly there for both of us. Despite having talked about going further than just a standard massage, and began to wonder if either one of us would go through with it.

massage oil

Ann Summer’s Nailah Massage Oil

He left me to get undressed and I hopped up onto the massage table, naked except for a towel covering my lower back. In all the massages I’d had before I’d at least worn a bikini or underwear so the feeling of laying completely naked on his massage down was a turn-on in itself.

He came back into the room and with my head tucked inside the hole in the table, I lay there listening to him moving around and oiling his hands with what smelt like coconut oil. The physio checked if I still wanted to go ahead and when I nodded he laid his hands on the top of my shoulders and slowly began to work his hands all over my back.

His expert hands travelled all over my body and slowly after he’d massaged my back and shoulders, he began to work his way down to my legs, inching the towel up higher so that it just covered the curve of my arse. He carried on innocently, working his hands up and down my legs but then I could start to feel his hands become more insistent and he gently partly my legs so he could massage up the inside of my thighs. This he continued to do for some time and the longer he did it, the more I could feel my body reacting.

Then he pulled the towel off completely and started gliding his hands from my back down the sides to where my boobs were resting on the table, down further to my arse which he began massaging, circling and kneading.

When he stopped to add more coconut oil to my arse, I moved my legs further apart and he took this as encouragement to carry on down past my arse to my pussy. There he spent a long time circling the outside. Using different strokes and a mixture of soft and harder motions he massaged the vulva and in particular the labia. I’ve never experienced anything like it, fingers that was just massaging the area but not inside me.

I could feel that the insides of my thighs were wet and the anticipation became too much and he slipped two fingers inside me. Generally, I don’t enjoy being fingered for too long. Those that I’ve experienced in the past have just left me feeling sore as they jab away at the area. Whereas this was completely different. It was slow and sensual and he moved his fingers not just inside me, but also to the bud of my clitoris and down the sides so that when I orgasmed, my whole body felt like it was shaking and held me for a while until I stopped.

So, yes whilst this did involve some form of penetration, I suspect if I had it again, I’d be able to orgasm without it, simply by having the areas around my vulva massaged, as well as the rest of my body. This proved to me that penis in vagina sex is such a limited and outdated way of thinking about how to have sex and orgasm in heterosexual relations. It’s certainly something I would recommend with a partner to get you in the mood or even when you’re not the mood or on your period but you still want that intimacy of touch.

I even went out and bought myself some massage oil so I could practice myself. I found a lovely one in Ann Summers called Nailah. The one I picked up was Orange Blossom and Cardamom and it’s heavenly. I couldn’t find the exact same one on the website but I did spot that the same brand have massage candles which are in the sale, so I’ll be getting those too. Click the link if you’re interested (not a sponsored post  just love the smell) Nailah Massage Candle 


My first time wearing a collar

Last weekend I had the pleasure of wearing a collar for the first time. It’s something I’ve been keen to try for a while, but with the right person. The opportunity presented itself with a partner I felt I trusted enough to hand the lead over to.

The collar I chose was from Ann Summers and cost £15.00. The collar and handle are black velvet although you can get them in Burgundy. Unfortunately, they were out of stock in my local Ann Summers but I have posted a link below if you want to buy one online.  There’s an adjustable clasp in rose gold and a twisted rope lead.  

Ann Summers collar and lead with box

Ann Summers Velvet Collar and Lead

The collar felt comfortable around my neck; not too thick or itchy and it didn’t leave any marks behind. Nor did my partner have any trouble doing up the clasp.

The lead seemed strong (though we didn’t do any hard tugging) and was just the right length for our needs.

I love how sophisticated and classy it looks compared to some of the more harsher looking collars and leads. For someone who has never used one before, I found this far less intimidating. It perhaps won’t be as strong or as sturdy I’m guessing as some of those for the more advanced bondage lover, but for a beginner, this one was perfect.

We started off using it s a means of him pulling me closer for brief kisses. By giving him the lead, I was showing how much I trusted him and that made the experience far more intimate.

Physically and sexually it brought us closer together. There I was showing him my most vulnerable self and it made me feel powerful. He was guiding me rather than yanking or pulling and I was directed by his desires which inflamed my own.

The collar and lead lent itself well to doggy style and oral for him was also incredibly enjoyable for us both using it.

We discussed it in detail afterwards and the only concern my partner had was about the collar not going all the way around the neck. He was worried that the clasp would put undue pressure on the back of my neck, although this wasn’t something I found to be a problem but certainly something we’re going to monitor in the future.

After my first time using a collar and lead I can safely say that it’s is something I’m going to be incorporating more into the bed in the future.

Ann Summers Lead and Collar

A velvet collar and lead that’s perfect for beginners

I’ve added a link if you’re interested in checking it out for yourself: Ann Summers Burgundy Velvet Collar and Lead

FYI: This is not a sponsored post. The collar and lead I bought myself and I was not asked by Ann Summers to review it. I will always state if a post is sponsored or any item is gifted.