The Erotic Journal Challenge – Sexual Positions

The challenge for week #28 of the Erotic Journal Challenge looks at sexual positions. What is your favourite and least favourite sexual position and why. 

I don’t have a vast repertoire  of sex positions to call on. When I find ones I like, I tend to stick to those. New positions are usually attempted when none of the tried and tested faithful’s seem to be hitting the spot.

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My favourite sex positions

69 tops my list of favourite sex positions. In this position I’m completely in control, when I’m sitting on my partners face. I enjoy feeling this lips, their tongue, their mouth and even their nose all over my crotch. The weight of my body pressing down on them is utterly erotic. In that position my partner can even slide a finger into my arse for extra stimulation.

Knowing that we’re mutually stimulating one another at the same time is a real turn on for me. The more turned on I get, the more vigour I inject into giving my partner oral.

If it’s heterosexual love making, then positions can be dependant on the size of my male partner’s penis. Some are far more enjoyable and comfortable than others.

In certain positions where the woman is in control and can direct how deep the penis goes in, it feels far more pleasurable if your partner is well endowed, positions like reverse cowgirl or many standing positions. Others such as the butterfly or where the legs are raised can end up feeling painful rather than pleasurable.

My least favourite sex positions

This brings me onto my least favourite sexual positions. This is usually anything that requires any gymnastic skills to get into or out of. Not only don’t I have the athleticism to do it but I don’t fancy a trip to Accident and Emergency either.

However, writing this has inspired me to go and buy a copy of the Kama Sutra. Not only don’t I know that many positions but aside from the likes of 69, cowgirl, reverse cowgirl, missionary and the wheelbarrow, but I don’t know the names of them.

Hopefully in a few weeks time I’ll know my  snake from my crab position.



Ripping dick – the perils of reverse cowgirl


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This week I ripped a dick. That’s right, you did read that correctly, I ripped a dick. I’ll be honest, I didn’t even know that was possible until this week.

Let me explain. A lover who I’d seen on two previous occasions came and paid me a visit. His particular preference has always been about using sex toys on me, preferably anal ones such as Thai love beads or my vibrating butt plug. However, since we’d been together a few times I felt comfortable enough asking for a little something different. I knew he could do kinky so I was keen to see if we could introduce some good old-fashioned vanilla sex into our love making. On top of that, after sex he’d usually have to leave straight away for work, whereas I prefer a greater level of intimacy with my kinky play. I spoke to him about what I wanted and he agreed to give it a try. He wanted me to ride him and agree to cuddles after sex.

We started off with oral; him on me, licking and sucking my clit and nibbling at my vulva. I enjoyed taking him in my mouth and I drove him crazy licking hat space between his balls and ass where his prostate is, so much so that he came over my first, the first time I’ve never let a man do that. I wasn’t as bad as I thought it was going to be besides finding some of it in my ear.

Whilst he was recovering, he played with me, teasing me with a glass dildo until he was hard again and told me to climb on top of him. I straddled him but it became clear after a few minutes that I couldn’t get into a steady rhythm so I decided to switch to reverse cowgirl. Big mistake.

Initially, it seemed to be going well. I finally found my rhythm and my clit felt stimulated. I let myself go and relaxed and really started going for it and as I wave of pleasure came over me, I leant forwards then back without thinking, a little far as it turns out. I felt what I thought at the time was him orgasming with a jolt but was actually him jolting in pain. On closer inspection when he pulled his foreskin back there was a small rip along the head of his cock.

I think it was safe to say we neve reached the cuddles part of the deal and I spent the rest of the time apologising.

It’s not all bad news, he did text me the following day asking if he could come again, as long as we never did reverse cowgirl again, and as good as his penis healed.

This incident also got me thinking about what other risky or slightly inadvisable sex positions were out there and I came across this article online in Men’s Health. You can read the full article here but as it turns out, cowgirl and reverse cowgirl are considered some of the most dangerous sex positions for men and their penises. I can also assure you that I took note of the other 3 on the list to ensure I didn’t rip, bend or generally put anyone else’s penis out of action: Men’s Health: 4 riskiest sex positions

I’d also love to hear if you’ve experienced anything similar with this position. Maybe there’s a sex position you stay away from after a bad experience. Do let me know in the comments box.